Sisterhood & Our Fire

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It is summer, the fire element, the element that rules our sexual, creative energy. It is the season that is based on relationships and transformation and the peak of the wave of the yearly seasonal cycle.

There are two primary aspects of the Divine Feminine. Our healing journey embraces both and brings them into harmony. In my work with women we begin with cultivating a strong relationship with our inner Divine Mother energy so we can call upon her to support us to transform our unconscious self rejection to self love. She is within us and she makes it possible for us to give this to ourselves. The other primary aspect of the feminine principle is the powerful, centered, sexual creatress.

It’s important to strengthen our relationship with our Divine Mother energy first so as we embrace this powerful creative energy, we are running it through a channel of self love instead of self rejection. At some point in our evolution the relationship between these two primary aspects of ourself clicks and becomes one. One without the other makes it next to impossible to bring our gifts into the world with compassion and consideration for the well being of all.

When these two aspects of ourself are dancing together our fire, passion, light, comes through in every thing we do, or person we encounter.

My relationship with my sisters, and our support for one another in this time of collective transition is very important to me. I feel it is a critical piece to our collective healing. It is not just the healing of women I refer to, but the healing of us all that will be affected through this sisterhood.

Relationships are important to the feminine. As women travel the transformational journey of healing the feminine principle we are confronted with the shadow side of relating from a disempowered posture in life. We have believed in a dysfunctional society’s perspective of our own power, or lack of it.

As I focus on my own strengthening and merging of these two aspects of the feminine I recently discovered a shadow side of my relationship with the beloved sisterhood I cherish.

Through much of my transition back to Maui I found myself always in someone else’s world. It took awhile for me to ground and find my home. A home that reflected who I am, and supported me to deepen and play with what I am passionate about. A home that I felt was the outer reflection of my inner world. The wait was well worth it. I had finally grounded in a home that allowed me to invite others into my world.

The joy of feeling the light and fire of my soul manifested in my physical surroundings is exuberant, passionate, and empowering.

One day I had a visitor who obviously struggles with the pain of dimming her light over for a celebration of a mutual friend. What she reflected back to me was a voice within myself that had plagued me long enough, criticizing the joy and passion. Basically, it is not OK to shine your light, feel your joy, exuberance and power.

In the past when that projection of someone’s self criticism has assaulted my passion, fire, I have shrunk and been apologetic for being so bold. This time I stood up to that voice she was embodying and said, “No, I will no longer dim my light because it makes you uncomfortable.”

I realized that a part of me felt my relationships with my women friends are so important that I wouldn’t allow myself to be my full expression, especially if there is any indication that it feels threatening to them. I have dimmed my fire all my life so I would be accepted.

My deepening relationship with my own Pele energy has brought this to the surface as she demands that I no longer apologize for who I am, in all my glorious, wondrous, divine feminine magnificence.

How many of us women are dimming our light fueled by our fire because we don’t want to be rejected? The other side of the dysfunctional coin is how many of us know how to shine this light fueled by our fire that is not wrapped in the package of what we were taught by a society that fears it? How many of us women feel threatened by another who allows this to shine through? How many of us are clean with this energy and know it beyond the perspective of a very old worn out paradigm?

These are good questions to ask ourselves in this season of the fire element. We need our sisterhood. We also need our sexual creative life force energy. We need a different perspective on this energy so we are not threatened by it, so we can fan the flames for one another to shine in our magnificence, offering our gifts to a world that needs them. We need to own this energy with no apologies. Embrace an authentic relationship with it so we are not threatened by another’s expression of their fire. Become masters of this sexual, creative energy so our light can shine and create a society that is aligned with our authentic fire.

Enjoy this summer, enjoy your fire, and allow it to fuel your relationships in a healthy authentic way with no apologies for your magnificence. Allow your fire to burn brightly.


Nourish Your Inner Love Affair

We all long for intimate, harmonious relationships. It makes life nourishing and fun. Typically man and woman have had a challenging time with our seemingly opposing natures. But in nature what appears opposite is actually complimentary and creates balance. To achieve this in our lives and world we must honor these supposed conflicting natures within ourselves.

When healthy, our receptive feminine aspect receives Divine guidance by getting quiet, going within, and feeling what is in our heart. When it is time to give birth to our passions and inspiration our active masculine aspect takes action, brings it into form, and moves it out into the world. These qualities may seem like a conflict on the surface, but both are needed to create a heartfelt life.

The mind, properly used is in service to the heart to bring it’s passions into form. When we can honor both the heart and mind for their equally valuable gifts to one another we will enjoy a delicious, nurturing love affair within ourselves.

Nature is our guide and model for the integration of these complimentary opposites. It has a yang outward, and yin inward time of day and year. It supports us to embrace ourselves in our entirety- both light and shadow. Everything in nature is a balance of these two principles. Bringing them into union supports us to move beyond duality and into love.

As a culture we have lost our alignment with this natural balance and union. We have been living with the strife and conflict between the heart and mind. We have lost our connection with the yin, feminine aspect of ourselves that support the balance.

Aligning with this natural wisdom throughout the yearly cycle, and eating locally grown seasonal foods supports us to embody this balance and union. For some food may seem like an insignificant part of the spiritual journey and transformation. But without it we have no way to embody natural Divine wisdom. Embodiment is a necessary piece to bringing union of Heaven and Earth to our world. It is not possible without this union within each of us.

Imagine a Divine love affair within instead of the common conflict between our heart and mind. Wouldn’t that have an influence on our world!

Mary Lane is author of “Divine Nourishment, A Woman’s Sacred Journey with Food.” She lives on Maui and offers private consultations, hikes, retreats and classes, teleconference classes supporting women to transform self rejection to self love and honor through the doorway of nourishment. www.divinenourishment.net